When the husband takes over the kitchen! ;)

I, like most people grew up in a household where mum did all the cooking. The moment she walked in through the door at 4 in the evening we were all over her asking her what’s for tea and then what’s for dinner :). I am sure she used to dread walking back home just because of that one question. So when I decided to get married I had, somewhere in the back of my head to find someone who knew how to cook and guess what I did! 🙂 And thus, begins the story of this post! 🙂

So where I am going with this is that I came across this gem of a word during one of those infamous news paper tracking days at my previous job.

Gastrosexual,
noun
“A term used to describe men see cooking as a hobby and not just a chore, taking the household chore part away from it. Gastrosexual men will use six pans when one will do and then leave you with the washing up.”

There was only one person I knew who fit this description extremely well…yes, that most definitely is my better half.

There really is nothing more enticing, ladies..I promise, than a man who can make a meal that too a really fancy one at that. It would be safe to say that I fell hook line and sinker for such a man. So, while I a starry-eyed bride thought that I was one of those lucky few women on earth to have snagged a guy who can sing and cook,little did I know the horrors that were to follow.(maybe I exaggerate a tad bit!)

So like every married couple we played house some days me making the meals and the other days him 🙂 The first few times every time he made dinner/lunch/breakfast I wouldn’t crib about the mess just be the good wife and wash the spoons, plates and the zillion other utensils that were used. But a few months into being married i realized that I was stressing more about the cleaning than enjoying the lavish dinner that was put in front of me.
So,it’s reached a point these days where I just do something else to keep myself occupied; 1) just to resist the urge to walk into the kitchen 2)lest I feel like giving him a lecture about cleaning up which in the end makes me sound like an epic nag and end up spoiling our appetites.

So all you lovely ladies out there,if you think marrying a man who can cook a meal is a wonderful idea make sure you ask him the all important question..can he clean up after the Masterchefy meal that he has prepared for you? If the answer is yes,you have won the Lotto..if not just be nice say thank you for the meal and leave the dishes for tomorrow, that way you do not diminish your chances to get another meal cooked with a lot of love and care!

P.S. After three years I would like to believe that my husband has learned to cook using 2 pans instead of the 6! 😉

I miss you like never before :(

Love!there is so much that this one word embodies. It inspires, it breaks our heart, it keeps us lonely and does so many things that leaves us yearning. “Distance makes the heart grow fonder” they say and among the many times just last week I realized how much distance can make my heart long.

I bid Sajan farewell at the airport last week; and that was the first time he was going away somewhere so far far away from me, that even if I wanted I couldn’t take a train, cab or any other means if I wanted to. We have been together from the moment we met. Three months of courtship was when we stayed apart every single day a few hours together and life seemed so perfect till now. After being together every single day, it’s now that I realise how MUCH I LOVE U and how difficult it is to stay apart.

The whole of last week my heart was just so full that my eyes would well up with tears that it would break Sajan’s heart to see my bawl my eyes out!
It broke my heart when we listened to our song to know that the bags are packed and that you are going away! 😦

Now the time has come to leave you
One more time let me kiss you
Close your eyes I’ll be on my way
Dream about the days to come
When I won’t have to leave alone; Leaving on a jet plane John Denver 🙂

There is so much that I miss about him now that he is gone…I miss waking up in the morning to that lovely smile,I miss those bike rides to work( it broke my heart giving off the keys to the bike) :(,I miss calling you for all the big and the small things, I miss holding your hand, I miss the hugs, the cuddles, the fights…more than all this and the million other things I miss your presence.. the fact that you are not gonna be sitting in that corner fiddling with the laptop and annoying the life out of me 🙂 😦 or you’re not going to be strumming your guitar or hear you sing! I miss you loads and I just wish the days would fly by so that i could touchdown and run straight into your arms…

the first time I sat on his bike 🙂 love the man and his machine! miss both

It’s hard to believe that I never realized how so much a part of me you have become. I know people who are married to each other become like that…but it is now that I appreciate the blessing you are in my life 🙂

There is no one who would tolerate my nakras as much as you would, the silly reasons for which i would drag you across the room only to put the spoon in the holder 🙂 and the zillion other things for which I would whine,get flustered about and make a mountain out of a molehill.From drilling sense into my head to holding me when I wanted to cry you have seen me through a lot and I love you for all of it!

I know you’re lonely too,the city is big there are so many things and places that I know makes you wish we were together. I wish you were here to hug and sleep every night and tomorrow the world would be a better place coz you are around!:)

I hope and pray that the day will pass quickly and even before I know we are together again!

Cold coffee, sandwich & chocolate brownie with icecream

Its one of those days when you wake up and feel like the entire world is on slow motion! it takes forever to get things done, drag your self out of bed and lastly get the day over at work,Tuesdays just add to my misery..for me even God on that day seems to be extremely bored!

On days like these i love keeping cooking to the miminum..i can get done with the b’fast and lunch..and b’fast these days is oats & lunch was tomato rice pressure cooked, which thank fully turned out well! 🙂 [yes yes! i m bragging abut myself]

..through the day me n hubby end up havin quick conversations over chat about a lot of things ranging from what needs to cooked, to who’s boss said what and the likes of it..and somewhere during todays session i ended up saying ” i m extremely tired today..all i wanna go home and do is make egg sandwich and crash” and the sweet {mind you extremely sweet } hubby that i have he has offered to cook dinner tonight and let me read a book n relax!
althought he had to do quiet a bit of cajoling to do to get me to agree coz i was stuck up on eating egg for dinner..and he convinced me what he would cook eggs but something exotic with eggs!!

I completely love it when my hubby goes into this mood..coz he experiments so much and comes out with all these mind blowing dishes ..ya the self proclaimed head chef of our house..ask some of my friends who have eaten at our place! =D and i am hoping for one such simple but exotic dish!

so now that the loving wife that i am i decided to pitch in with my share I have offered to make us tall glasses of yummy cold coffee to add to go with the sandwich and also mayb some salad with cucumbers and whatever I can find in the fridge

…and as the conversation progressed we now have on the menu 2 glasses of cold coffee, one exotic sandwich & to top it off we decided to finish it off with some yummy brownie from Fab India & vanilla ice cream with chocolate sauce!! =D

ha! now who says being married is a pain!i so love being married..i remember days when i have gotten back from home wishing if only someone would make me somethin to eat and lo! after many years i have him to fulfil that very desire!

so this one’s for our extremly boring Tuesday that we hope to finish with a bang!!

Children bundles of joy….

This idea for putting this down came while i had a nice long chat with my friend…and hence credit for this one goes to him! 🙂

Children..bundles of joy…and also bundles of unexpected… really unexpected surprises! I consider myself truly blessed to be a part of a large family,I have been surrounded by older siblings all the time and then I was the child..pampered, played with all the time,was the face that they would experiment the new makeup, try out hairstyles..all of it!

Many a years have passed by my older cousins have grown up..moved out of the house and have started familes of their own and have been blessed with wonderful daughters..yes..our family (i think should be considered by the Govt of India in promoting the welfare of the girl chid 😉 )
Now its my turn, as an aunt to be everything that their mothers have been wonderful friends, loving sisters..all of it…This weekend was a wonderful one..my sister i m sure would disagree on this..that i m quiet a hit with children..she would say “chechi and kids…they all run away from her just because she has eyes as big as saucers! :P” but not this time…infact all of them bonded with me..I braided their hair,played with them and listened to all the stories and shared their excitment of having us around them and all they had to say including some of the really classic comments they had to say about marriages and being married!can you beat that!?

This weekend I didnt feel one bit older..infact felt younger…on my way back i looked out the train window and thought back to those lovely days of being a kid and to those 3 days..and all i can think is I have a huge packet of lovely memories all tightly packed and sealed…”memories of a lifetime” all at some point in life will make me smile!

the match-makers….

This is one of the most talked about topic in my life!oh! wait not just my life…i guess in most of my friend’s lives too!!! MARRIAGE!! 😥
I guess it’s those phases in life that when its starts…till you just dnt give into the pressure it jus doesn stop!

The moment a girl steps outta college..her parent’s are worried that she might just find herself someone who is hmmm..well not the rite person and screw up the rest of her life..hence they set themselves and everyone else on the MAN Hunt.. oops…;) i mean the groom Hunt! 🙂

but while the hunt begins these are some of the interesting things ( read as very annoying ) that i came across..which some of you all might agree…and some might not!

1.Every proposal that comes or every boy ur parents meet is a “nice boy” and an “eligible bachelor”
2. What if he is not al that “hep”, but his family is too good…one of those ancient families
3. suddenly your parents would want to meet your girlfriend’s parents and wants you to attend all their weddings..hoping that u manage to find nice men there!
4. This is one is classic! They bring you weird proposals from boy’s whose names r ‘Romeo’, imagine being married to someone like tht…i mean like what do u expect me to do…cut all my relations with my friends and live with the ridicule for the rest of my life!?
5. N then comes famous line all parents give their children…”we hardly knew each other when we got married..i m sure you will like him once you get married!” n like what am i to do if i dnt?!!
6. sudenly people you have never seen in your life..will land up at ur doorsteps..all proclaiming to be some relative of urs!even their driver or other people give their valuable comments & bring u marriage proposals!
7.and when they insist you meet someone!they give u instructions on being the well behaved girl, its against the rules to talk more than 15 mins and if you exceed half an hour somebody from the family starts walking up & down ( u have no idea how excellent their non verbal communication can be) and if it’s one hour they think u have already planned ur future with that guy! what i fail to understand..is how the hell am i supposed to decide my future in 15 minutes!
8.Every b’day after 23..is a living nightmare!they jus remind u every year and all thru that u r getting old and nobody will marry u!ya rite, like all the men are gonna disappear or they ar all gonna turn saints! 😉
9.after they give up tryin to find u the perfect groom they give u the option to find ur self the man of ur choice…yayaya..i knw but wait even b4 i cna be happy a list follow “educated, well to do, mallu christian boy only!!!” bah!! there goes my hopes & dreams!
10. I cant think of a last reason tried really hard!:) well someday i’ll fill it in!
Not that i have anythin against anyone blissfully married or gettin married..it’s jus that i haven found someone who wouldn wanna make me rewrite these reasons..but let’s hope i do!
Till then happy reading… 😀 while i go home to attend my cousin’s wedding and deal with these above mentioned annoying reasons! 🙂

For those special friends……

A lovely forward i once saw on the softboard of my colleague..it made lots of sense… and made me realise it’s my friends who are my family far away from home… they have been there.. from sharing a secret, to lending a shoulder to taking care of me when i have been sick, my friends have stood by me..creating a bond that i knw will go through wear and tear as time goes by..but nothing can break it..for its been sealed with love and sisterhood for a lifetime! 🙂 so here it is to all my friends…or all of you complete me!….
Go ahead and read the forward below..and once u are done..do pass on the message to those special gang of friends…i m sure it will definately be chicken soup for the soul! 😀
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A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting her Mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter. “Don’t forget your girlfriends,” she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. “They’ll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you’ll have, you are still going to need girlfriends. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them. And remember that “girlfriends” are not only your friends, but your sisters, your daughters, and other relatives too. You’ll need other women. Women always do.”

“What a funny piece of advice,’ the young woman thought. “Haven’t I just gotten married? Haven’t I just joined the couple-world? I’m now a married woman, for goodness sake, a grownup, not a young girl who needs girlfriends! Surely my husband and the family we’ll start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!” But she listened to her Mother; she kept contact with her girlfriends and made more each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, girlfriends are the mainstays of her life.

After 50 years of living in this world, here is what I know about girlfriends:

Girlfriends bring you chicken curry when you need help.
Girlfriends keep your children and keep your secrets.
Girlfriends give advice when you ask for it. Sometimes you take it, sometimes you don’t.
Girlfriends don’t always tell you that you’re right, but they’re usually honest.
Girlfriends still love you, even when they don’t agree with your choices.
Girlfriends laugh with you, and you don’t need canned jokes to start the laughter.
Girlfriends pull you out of jams.
Girlfriends help you get out of bad relationships.
Girlfriends help you look for a new apartment, help you pack, and help you move.
Girlfriends will give a party for your son or daughter when they get married or have a baby, in whichever order that comes!
Girlfriends are there for you, in an instant and when the hard times come.
Girlfriends listen when you lose a job or a friend.
Girlfriends listen when your children break your heart.
Girlfriends listen when your parents’ minds and bodies fail.
Girlfriends support you when the men in your life let you down.
Girlfriends help you pick up the pieces when men pack up and go.
Girlfriends rejoice at what makes you happy, and are ready to go out and kill what makes you unhappy.
Times passes. Life happens. Distance separates. Children grow up. Love waxes and wanes. Hearts break. Careers end. Jobs come and go. Parents die. Colleagues forget favours. Men don’t call when they say they will.

BUT girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you.
A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.